You and he are not demonstrating optimal parenting because you are unwilling to try other solutions and you are both putting your daughter at the center of this marital issue.
More and more, he must also serve as her buddy, mentor, emotional anchor, sports coach, companion, and confidante.
When a girl is able to observe her father as a strong role model who's masculine -- but not entitled or domineering or overly placating -- she absorbs that into her system and manifests it in her life.